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I had cancer. My cancer was rare. I survive the cancer and living through my life to the fullest now.

My life changed in an instant when I was diagnosed early February last year. I was numb. I was scared. I was at the verge where my life was shattered to million pieces. Then I remembered that I had 2 beautiful children that I gave birth to this world. I had a family, mom, dad and my siblings. Then I saw the reaction on my husband face. He was speechless but kept a very positive mind and said that we can fight through this together. It was him who gave me the support and went on research about my cancer.

I went through chemo, radical surgery and gruesome radiation. The hospital was my second home during the hard times of treatment.

Sydney was where I "lost" some organs. The major lost organs was the Pleura and my right lung. I survived the surgery. So did the other cancer patients before me. We're a living proof that we can live with one lung. However, I need to take extra care of my self better. My life was never the same after that.

Today, I turned 34 officially. Happy birthday to me!!!! If not because of my husband's researched, I wouldn't know where I'll be now. And if I didn't get the family support from my parents and in law, I too wouldn't know how far I'll go. They kept me going. I told them to not cry in front of me whenever the come and see me at the hospital. Their scarifies are very valuable to me, my children and my soul mate.

Those days when I was much-much younger, I get freaked out when I hear the word "cancer". It's like a taboo for me. During those days before I got married, I knew of few people diagnosed with cancer. I can't imagine what it's like at that time. I didn't know how to react and comfort them until I was diagnosed with it too. Now, I feel for them. I know what it feels like and I'm sharing to the world what it's like. Then again, it's a different ball game all together. I went through it and you as my readers can benefit from my experience with cancer. You may be a cancer patient or someone in your family has one...I wouldn't know much unless you tell me personally.

I got to know other cancer patients through this blog. People e-mailed me personally sharing their thoughts. I know that some of you just don't know how to react or even dare to comment. It's ok. That's a normal reaction.

August will be the month that I will always remember for the rest of my life. I had my radical surgery on the 2nd, my wedding anniversary falls on the 7th, my son was born on the 10th and I was born a day before Merdeka Celebrations. I'm blessed.

I survived the first year after the surgery and looking forward for many more surviving years to come.

Of course I can never avoid the past. Though I moved on but I think about it almost everyday. (Ok, honestly everyday). The scare will never go away. It's a reminder that ALLAH gave me a second chance in life.

How do you react and talk to a cancer patient?

Be there for them. Don't cry in front of them because that's a sign of weakness. Comfort them with the best way you can. Avoid telling them what's good for them or what should not be eaten. When a cancer patient goes through chemo, they need all the nutrients for the body to survive chemo.

How do you comfort a cancer patient?

Give them hope. Remind or tell them that many people survived cancers. Famous singers Kylie Minouge, Olivia Newton John, Melissa Estheridgre, Sheryl Crow and many more survived it. There's also Lance Armstrong who survived gruesome chemo and radiation treatment and went on to win the Le Tour De France championship for 7th time.

Usually most of the cancer patients will be on drugs depending on what the doctors will prescribed to them. They need that to keep their sanity. Don't let them fall into depression because it will make things worst. Always remind them of the good times. Tell them to Be Strong and Have Faith. It's ok to let them cry. Allow them to go through emotional breakdown because we're human and we have feelings. Be there for them.

Those are few tips that I can share with you for now. There are many ways except right now, I just want to blog about my reflection on life for the past one year.

I haven't changed that much. I'm still the old person that I am known among my good old friends. But of course there are changes in my life that I decided to hold on to now. It was never easy. Who says life is easy. Waking up everyday and telling yourself to be strong and have faith does take away a lot of energy. I'm always surrounded by friends who gives me positive vibes and I'll always avoid the negativity attitude in a person. I block my self from those people because I chose to lead my own life my way.

Whenever we lost a life, just remember that another life is born. We celebrate them in many ways. As for me, I chose to celebrate with my close family, in laws and friends who's been there for us from the start. *cheers to the duck cheering squad*

Today, I am 34 year old mother of two hyper beautiful children and a wife to my soul mate. Today, 34 years ago, my mom gave birth to me and raised me to be what I am today. (Though I can be very nasty at times but what the heck! The youngest is always spoiled and they have a mind of her own!! :P)

Now that I have a friend who just recently diagnosed with breast cancer stage II at early 40's, we've made a point that we will always be there for her and the family when in need.

Thank you with all my heart and soul to those who have been there, reading me and cheering up with me. You know who you are.

First the Weather, Now it's about Crime..

I'm glad it rained for the past few days. That rain managed to get rid of the bad haze even though it has caused flash flood in some areas downtown K.L. I hope it will stay that way. I hated the haze so much that it left me with a very bad sore throat and continuous coughing. I cough so bad that my head, my neck, my back and my chest hurts. I'm taking my antibiotics and the cough is still giving me a hard time during the nights. At one stage I almost threw out. My children on the other hand just recovered from the bad fever and cough. Which is good but now it has gone to me. I will be recovering from all this soon. *sigh* Damn those haze!!

It's 4am right now and I can't sleep since 2am. I've been wide awake watching CNN/BBC and my mind is thinking about my mom.

Last night, my mom called me and told me that she was a victim of snatch theft. I got a shock of my life. It happened so fast according to my mom. She was in her car when it all happened. My cousin was with her at that particular time helping mom to deliver some fruits to her friends which she got from our family orchard. There was two of them on the motorbike. One was holding a "parang" (something like a butcher knife?) One of them held the "parang" to my mom. Everything happened so fast according to her. My mom friend's saw it happened and screamed. They managed to get away and left my mom alone.

It happened so fast that my mom didn't realized that her hand was bleeding. Her friend took her to the clinic near by and got some medical attention. The good thing is that my mom is all right but still in the state of shock. My cousin couldn't do anything as she was also shock about the whole incident that happened right in front of her eyes. I'm glad my mom is ok now and the culprits didn't get the chance to steal anything. Alhamdulillah.

What is this country getting into? There's so much crime around. It's just not safe to go out alone anymore. You will never feel safe even in your own car or even your house. There's too many crimes happening in this country. You hear and read crimes everyday and it's really getting bad now days. I was relieved that my mom was in her car when that happened. I can't imagine if she was walking by the road side. Anything could have happen. You read the news paper everyday that there's always a story or a case about snatch theft. I really mean it when I say EVERYDAY.

When this happened, some struggle to save their belongings, some will fall and hit their head which leads to coma and some dies from it. Our lives are at stake. Sometimes, you don't die of cancer but you can die because of other causes and this is just one example.

What can we do about all this? Is the current prevention crimes working? Are there enough law enforcement? Can we stop all this crimes from happening? How do we solve this? This has become like a daily routine news. We don't feel safe even in our own house anymore.

Now, I'm worried for my mom. I'm sure her car has been marked. If you're asking where did it happened? Few blocks away from where my parents live. Few weeks ago, my mom told me that 4 of the neighbor's houses have been burglarized the same day. This also happened in the same area at K.J. One of it happened during day light. Those idiots dare to steal even during the day.

What makes people steal from one another? Who are they? What are they? When this happens, we suddenly judge....Firstly we will point out the foreign immigrants who are working in our country on contract basis. Then we point out to the drug addicts who are desprate for some fast cash and jewelry. Next we have road bullies and many more. Who are to be blame?

People are stealing and nothing has been done to stop crimes like this. Few months back, my sister in law's car was stolen right in front of her house around 7:30pm. Then one of my friend's house gate have been tempered because they wanted to steal his Toyota Wish from his own garage. Then my husband told me of a case where a BMW was stolen from the parking space/premisis of the Royal Lake Club in K.L. during day light.

What's this? I feel like this country is not as safe like it used to be anymore! As much as I love this country, I hate the things that are happening currently. There's just too many issues that the government should be looking into. I know they are aware of this but I don't see any improvement. There's too many ding dongs and red tapes.

This is just part of the many crimes that's happening in our country. I haven't even talk about rape cases in our country or child kidnapping yet. Now that's another different story. That would be like forever and never ending nagging.

Oh another thing. What do we see now days on TV is so pethatic. Who the hell cares about Datin Siti and Dato' K's wedding reception or Ina and Mawi's controversial story. (I know because they advertised it on TV and in the radio too). I'm not a fan of any of the above. Though my husband is!! :P I think the media has gone overboard this time. The rivalry among the TV networks is really a big joke. Go to hell. I don't really give a f*ck about that honestly. I rather watch Mr. Bean or hang out with some friends. :P Oh well, shit happens. I should try to go back to bed now.

Be safe people!!! And have a good week ahead.

How I Hate the Haze...

Hubby is away in Jakarta and I became a bachelor for a night. I thought of going out with some friends last night but the rain that came earlier didn't help clear the haze. Damn it!!

My kids Alhamudlillah have recovered but the cough still remains. It's clearing off but it's a very slow process.  *sigh*

When will the Government learn and take actions about this haze? You know it's hazardous to the health and yet they are not doing anything about it. Are they really actually doing anything about it? *double sigh* We know that some of it is caused by the forest fire. Just look at the hot spot. Well, yeah I know we can see the hot spot in Kalimantan, Sumatera. Our country still have problems handling with people who are responsible for the open fire/burning or what ever bla bla bla. *triple sigh*

Hubby called last night after dinner and told me that the haze in Jakarta is even worst. Then I was told that we've been invited to go to Bandung next month. I'm considering it because the last time I was in Jakarta was 28 years ago. My family and I stayed in Jakarta for a year. I went to an international school there. Taking a trip to Bandung will bring back memories. If I can remember that much (lah). Our friends who just got back from Bandung told us about their trip and that got hubby tempted. Ok so it got both of us tempted. But the thing that is making me think twice is the haze.

Well, we will see how it goes.

Have a good weekend all.

Is It The Weather?

Or the haze? Or the season?

2 weeks ago my daughter had a fever that lasted for about almost 5 days. We took her to the hospital, had to take blood test and found out that she had a minor ear infection. She's better now and back to her normal self though the coughing and flu is still there while my son now has got the symptoms like hers.

He now have the fever. We've been giving him the suppository to bring down his fever. He's also coughing and has a running nose at the same time. As for me, I've been taking my multivitamins and extra vitamin C to protect my body and immune systems. Insya'ALLAH I should be fine.

When we were in the hospital last week, I managed to bump into my lung specialist and asked him if its an epidemic. He seems to think yes and with the haze going around, it makes it worst. He also said to be careful about dengue. Now, that is what I'm concerned about most especially if you live around construction areas. Damn those politicians for allowing such development in our area. They are so corrupted. Only if I can let it out all here.......*triple sigh* Just too many red tapes. Urghhh...my arse. I love this area when it had more greens and rather quiet before all the condo development started.

Now we have to face with too many bloody construction in our area. It's polluting our area, my oxygen intake and it's an eye sore. Those guards better be alert and on their feet to guard our housing area!!.

On a another story, our friend the couple from the duck cheering squad just got back from Bandung told us about their "shopping spree adventure". Interesting indeed. Hubby might be heading to Jakarta for some work related end of this month (No BTB, hubby is not a golfer! so he is not going golfing :P) and I was told that the weather and haze there is really bad. Not good for me. :( Haiyaaa.... I was just thinking of joining him and meet up with my friend "D" and "M" whom I bump into last week at the hospital. Since the trip is only going to be one night so I guess it's not worth my time and money to join him especially if the haze is bad. Besides, I am so broke!!! :P

The sad part about all this is that our weekend family trip to PD is canceled. Since my son is not well, we have to let go of our family retreat plan. We need to monitor my son now and make sure that the fever goes away. If it prolong, then we may have to take him to the hospital too and have a blood test to make sure that it's not dengue. *sigh* I hope he gets well soon and that it's just a normal fever.

Looks like I'll be stuck at home (what else is new) for the next few days.

Dancing Through The Beat of Fourplay

This is a delay entry about the Fourplay concert that hubby, me and the duck cheering squad attended recently.

I had so much fun watching the concert. I was so into the whole 2 hours concert. My whole body was dancing through the beat of jazz that night. Gees, I can't remember when was the last time I went to a concert feeling like that night. It was indeed worth it. You need to be a jazz fan to appreciate their music. They were really good and fun to watch.

Well, I know Chick Corea is coming next year. Not too sure if I'll be going to the concert yet. We will see.

Though I had a mild anxiety attack (what else is new), but it didn't stop me from enjoying the concert. Gosh, I still need attend to my anxiety problem. *sigh*

Have Good Weekend all. We'll be on a family weekend retreat near a beach some place near since the school holiday is starting next week.

The Sick Spammers

Gosh, now I have to figure out how to handle spammers on typepad. They keep on changing their IP's and that makes it more difficult to ban them.

Urghhh..

Sorry Hon, We're Not Invited

But you can see the invitation card instead. *wide grin*

Friend of ours were invited to attend Siti Nurhaliza's wedding with Datuk K.  Yeah, so we got to see the invitation card. [Tengok sahaja!!] :P

 

5 Years Ago....

It was around 2:45pm on Friday 10th of August 2001, I gave birth to my son "A".

Happy birthday my dearest son....

Mommy loves you with all my heart and soul....

I'll always be here for you sayang...

May ALLAH bless you sehingga ke akhir hayat.

Many Challenges

What a rough week we had. A combination of happy stories and sad stories. No mushy mushy story in this entry....

Well the good thing is that we had a good time celebrating my 1st year anniversary of my surgery and our wedding anniversary all together.

Then we read the news about Francis Yeoh's wife of YTL passed away to cancer after 7 years of fighting. As a human being and a person who knows how it feels like having cancer, I feel for him and his family. We are always effected with news like this especially me. It becomes a reminder to me that ALLAH is mighty great. She fought really hard. She fought for a long time. May her soul rest in peace. Our condolence to the YTL's family.

Then came another shocking news. A friend of ours, recently has been diagnosed with breast cancer stage II. We were shocked and speechless. All we could do is to offer our support and encouragement for her to fight the disease. We met up for a high-tea over the weekend to discussed about her situation. I made a promise to her that I will be there for her whenever she needs the boost. Since she will be doing her surgery at the same hospital that I had my chemo last year, I thought I'll visit her there when she goes in for her treatment. I know most of the surgical staff nurse there. Almost everyday you hear or read about people or someone you may know diagnosed with cancer. It's getting very common now days.

Few days ago my husband shared with me another sad story about one of his staff passed away of breast cancer. She caught it at a late stage. After going through surgery, about 3 weeks later she passed away. It was too late to do anything. I was again left with a numb feeling and reminded of ALLAH's challenge.

Sad isn't? ALLAH's challenge comes in many ways and forms.

Today, I received another shocking news. How do you react if you know a friend of yours is having an affair? Oh well, enough of absorbing news for today. The whole week has been like a roller coaster ride for us. Enough of cancers, enough of stories about people and their personal affairs, enough about the news on war, enough about stupid government who thinks they are so smart when they are not, enough of politics and their stupid corruption...I've had enough. *sigh*

I'm going to bed and when I wake up tomorrow, I'm going to have a nice 2 session of reflexology and try to book a getaway weekend somewhere.

7 Wonderful Years

Happy 7th Year Anniversary Honey.

To love is to share life together
to build special plans just for two
to work side by side
and then smile with pride
as one by one, dreams all come true.

To love is to help and encourage
with smiles and sincere words of praise
to take time to share
to listen and care
in tender, affectionate ways.

To love is to have someone special
one who you can always depend
to be there through the years
sharing laughter and tears
as a partner, a lover, a friend.

To love is to make special memories
of moments you love to recall
of all the good things
that sharing life brings
love is the greatest of all.

I've learned the full meaning
of sharing and caring
and having my dreams all come true;
I've learned the full meaning
of being in love
by being and loving with you

- Kellie Spehn -

Hon, I'm so blessed that ALLAH gave you to me. Thank you for being there for me all this years. Thank you for saving my life. Thank you for being my friend, bestfriend, my husband and my soulmate. Thank you for all the things you have given and provide me and the family. You're the best... I love you hon with all my heart and soul.

p.s

Fourplay we go....